Monday, February 23, 2009

True Woman - tough questions on Modesty

Email teaser from Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Tough Questions on Modesty

Listen in as Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Holly Elliff, and her daughter, Bethany, respond to women’s questions on modesty.*

  • Develop the ability to converse about everything with your kids. It may wear you out, but it keeps communication open as they enter their teen years.
  • Ask your husband what he really enjoys you wearing, and then find appropriate times to wear what he likes.
  • You're responsible to live up to the truth that you know and to pray that God will teach others those same truths. If God brings you into relationship with someone, then you may have the privilege of being one of the people that helps share truth with them.
The rest can be found here.

Okay...I have to admit this...I'm getting really tired of Nancy's continuing theme on modesty. So I approached this lesson with irritation in my heart. :) It's like I was saying "enough already!". So I was surprised a bit.

One of the things mentioned is this:
I think one thing that's important to do is to go to your husband and say to him, "What do you really enjoy me wearing? Are there some things you just like? Do you like me better in long skirts, in shorter skirts, in jeans and a sweater?" Find out what are his favorite things, and then find appropriate times to wear those things. I would listen to him.
Not particularly something I ever really thought about before doing. To deliberately ask hun...what do you prefer that I wear? Not sure what I'd do if he said...I want you to wear a dress to church every Sunday. Makes me wonder if I should ever dare to ask that! :) I suppose though, that it would be another way to honour him, and therefore to glorify God. Hmm....I'll need to think on that some...... What do you all think?

I do know that I prefer to go shopping with someone else for clothes. Clothes aren't something that particularly matter to me. If it's clean and relatively in decent shape...I'll wear it. I do have "Sunday clothes" but's clothes...I wear them. I'm used to people shaking their heads at me. I've learned to heed the "don't wear that out in public" comments that people make. But for the most part...I don't care as long as what I'm wearing doesn't make me look horrid colour wise. :) Jim is a pretty good guide in that, and I have learned to say "Hun? Does this match?" :) Makes me feel odd quite often as it seems to me that most women have no problems with this stuff and automatically know how to dress properly all the time. I am amazed at times by my sisters and sister in laws...they KNOW this stuff, and it seems to come very easily to them. I'm often left feeling like an odd duck.

Back to the lesson for today..... I was disappointed that once again no scripture was used as a basis for anything. It was just talk and teaching about 'stuff'. And what I want is the scripture and not just talk about "stuff"...I want to know the whys and hows. Like Is it more honouring of my hubby and glorifying of God if I say hun....what do you think I should wear? (and then following through on that - even if doing the dress thing is something in the winter I'd really rather NOT do). And what's the scriptural basis for that type of statement.

I don't know. Modesty doesn't seem to be an issue for me. And continuing to talk about it is just I don't know....irritating without more scripture being involved. I don't know...we'll see how tomorrow goes. :)


Qwin said...

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Annette said...

thank you. it's an encouragement to hear. :)